tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575978549560313845.post2553049518381515708..comments2023-07-10T04:53:59.285-07:00Comments on William E. Ford, Ph.D.: Tiger's crocsWilliam Fordhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14193019399775370166noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575978549560313845.post-26718505856127014872010-02-23T18:50:18.316-08:002010-02-23T18:50:18.316-08:00I completely agree with this post. Actually this T...I completely agree with this post. Actually this Tiger Woods story resonated with some personal experience. I do agree that it is "a good self-protection strategy" as you said. While recognizing the offense is a first step which needs to be taken and leads to self-reflection, if it is not followed by active steps to correct it and actually change, provided that change is possible, then it is not worth much. <br />I was once in the same exact shoes as Mrs. Woods and I stepped out, because the offense was so great, destructive and dangerous at every level that I did not see how trust could be restored.<br />Forgiveness is an entirely different matter, once may forgive and understand the mechanisms that led to a transgression. Part of the process of forgiveness, I think, is understanding and compassion. But it does not mean that the transgression has to be forgotten and wiped out completely. This is a learning process, when you have learned that this transgression did happen and is possible, I do not think there is any turning back. And that does not mean forgiveness is impossible, but now it requires an awareness of what happened and an active effort to overcome it. I forgave totally, but never forgot and learned a great deal in the process.<br />Sorry for rambling... :)Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04388333022388955053noreply@blogger.com